Socially Acceptable Lesson 15

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Socially Acceptable Lesson 15

Lies

People lie for various reasons

  • fear of harm
  • fear of conflict
  • fear of rejection
  • fear of loss
  • to get their own way
  • to gain something
  • to get a lighter sentence
  • to hurt an enemy
  • because the truth hurts.

God says

  • Let your “yes” be your “yes” and your “no” be your “no”.
  • The truth will set you free.

Satan is

  • the father of ALL lies. Little white lies and half-truths are still lies.

Robbery
Four friends are driving back from a day at the beach in a convertible, en- joying the view after swimming and soaking up the sun. Nkosi and Thakalani are sitting in the backseat. The music is pumping loud and they are singing along. The driver tells them that they each have to pay R20,00 for petrol so that they can reach their destinations. Everyone agrees. However, Thakalani first needs to run into the store to get change.

As she walks into the store, she sees a man in a mask holding up the people in the store with a gun. She gets a fright, but before she can turn and run, the robber sees her and commands her to lie on the floor.

The robber immediately looks away from her, but although he is wearing a mask, Thakalani recognises his eyes. She sees that the robber is her cousin! He is also shocked to see her and hopes she will cover for him and not expose him.

Thakalani knows this will break his mother’s heart, so she freezes in time, undecided what to do. Soon afterwards the police arrive. The robber takes the money and flees.

Thakalani is now faced with a dilemma: “Should I tell the truth or should I protect my cousin and his mother?” She is so angry, she screams out his name: “Franco, stop!”


Group discussion

  1. Identify the in this story.
  2. What would you do if you were Thakalani? Would you expose your cousin or “split” on him?
    • How would her decision affect their relationship?
    • What was her responsibility?
    • Would she still respect him if she did not expose him? And would he respect her if she did not expose him?
  3. Imagine you hear a noise outside and you instruct your family to hide under the bed. When you open the door, you face someone pointing a gun to your head and asking: “Is there anyone else in the house?” Wow! What a situation to find yourself in. Would you lie or tell the truth? If you say yes, you would put your family in danger. But if you want to protect your family, you have to tell a lie. To answer this question, read and discuss Ephesians 4:22-25.
  4. Missionaries and Christians in China (for example) are willing to die for Jesus. They refuse to lie about serving Jesus and thus sometimes whole families are killed for their faith. Are you willing to take a stand for doing “the right thing” and trusting God with the outcome? Read and discuss Matthew 10:26-33.
  5. It is harder to make a good decision in a crisis situation. People tend to put off making tough decisions in a crisis. They do this because there is very little time in a crisis to think of a possible solution. A good response to difficult situations depends on how emotionally mature you are. Sometimes it is difficult to control your emotions and that causes you to act in a desperate way. Don’t make decisions when you are upset or angry.






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Lies

People lie for various reasons

  • fear of harm
  • fear of conflict
  • fear of rejection
  • fear of loss
  • to get their own way
  • to gain something
  • to get a lighter sentence
  • to hurt an enemy
  • because the truth hurts.

God says

  • Let your “yes” be your “yes” and your “no” be your “no”.
  • The truth will set you free.

Satan is

  • the father of ALL lies. Little white lies and half-truths are still lies.

Robbery
Four friends are driving back from a day at the beach in a convertible, en- joying the view after swimming and soaking up the sun. Nkosi and Thakalani are sitting in the backseat. The music is pumping loud and they are singing along. The driver tells them that they each have to pay R20,00 for petrol so that they can reach their destinations. Everyone agrees. However, Thakalani first needs to run into the store to get change.

As she walks into the store, she sees a man in a mask holding up the people in the store with a gun. She gets a fright, but before she can turn and run, the robber sees her and commands her to lie on the floor.

The robber immediately looks away from her, but although he is wearing a mask, Thakalani recognises his eyes. She sees that the robber is her cousin! He is also shocked to see her and hopes she will cover for him and not expose him.

Thakalani knows this will break his mother’s heart, so she freezes in time, undecided what to do. Soon afterwards the police arrive. The robber takes the money and flees.

Thakalani is now faced with a dilemma: “Should I tell the truth or should I protect my cousin and his mother?” She is so angry, she screams out his name: “Franco, stop!”

Group discussion

  1. Identify the in this story.
  2. What would you do if you were Thakalani? Would you expose your cousin or “split” on him?
    • How would her decision affect their relationship?
    • What was her responsibility?
    • Would she still respect him if she did not expose him? And would he respect her if she did not expose him?
  3. Imagine you hear a noise outside and you instruct your family to hide under the bed. When you open the door, you face someone pointing a gun to your head and asking: “Is there anyone else in the house?” Wow! What a situation to find yourself in. Would you lie or tell the truth? If you say yes, you would put your family in danger. But if you want to protect your family, you have to tell a lie. To answer this question, read and discuss Ephesians 4:22-25.
  4. Missionaries and Christians in China (for example) are willing to die for Jesus. They refuse to lie about serving Jesus and thus sometimes whole families are killed for their faith. Are you willing to take a stand for doing “the right thing” and trusting God with the outcome? Read and discuss Matthew 10:26-33.
  5. It is harder to make a good decision in a crisis situation. People tend to put off making tough decisions in a crisis. They do this because there is very little time in a crisis to think of a possible solution. A good response to difficult situations depends on how emotionally mature you are. Sometimes it is difficult to control your emotions and that causes you to act in a desperate way. Don’t make decisions when you are upset or angry.

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