Masquerade Lesson 11

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Masquerade Lesson 11

Hiding behind the mask of rejection

Spikey got his nickname from the way he cut his hair from a young age, short, spikey, uneven and not caring if it was neat. He grew up with his mother Cecelia and aunty Carol Anne. Although Cecelia was married to his father Benjamin, he left her as soon as he found out that she was pregnant. Benjamin was a famous band player and not willing to settle down as a family man. In fact, Cecelia falling pregnant was an inconvenience for him. He left one Saturday afternoon to perform at a concert and never returned.

Cecelia was devastated and rejected the baby from while it was still in her womb, as all she cared about was being on the road with her husband. Drugs, rock and roll and living on the run from one rock concert to another, was the lifestyle she was used to. Cecelia found it difficult to forgive herself for falling pregnant and could not wait to give birth so she could leave Spikey to grow up with Aunty Carol Anne her sister, so she could return to her exciting life. But by the time Spikey was born, Benjamin had met a new exciting younger girl and had no desire for Cecelia as a wife anymore.

Benjamin was definitely not ready for the responsibility of fatherhood nor cared to even find out if Spikey was a girl or boy. He simply disappeared and would appear on television or in the newspaper tabloids from time to time. Cecelia turned to alcoholism and never got over Benjamin leaving her. She was constantly depressed and drunk, never giving Spikey attention or spending quality time with him. Spikey bought a ticket once to attend his father’s concert, but when he went backstage to convince the bodyguards that he was Benjamin’s son, they literally threw him out the door.

Aunty Carol Anne tried to make up for his parents not loving him, but she also had two children of her own so found it difficult to give him the attention he needed. Spikey always felt like an outsider who never belonged. At night when he was alone in his room, he used to allow tears to fall on his pillow quietly, while he questioned God as to why no-one loved him. On the other hand, Spikey was a happy boy at school, always making jokes in the class. He enjoyed making people laugh at the silliest things, in fact everybody who knew him loved him. No one knew or suspected his circumstances. He had found a way to hide his hurt and it worked perfectly for him.


Heart to Heart

Let us discuss Spikey and his family:

  1. List how many masks you think Spikey hides behind? (Why is he a big joker in the class?)
  2. What masks are Spikey’s father and mother live behind?
  3. The bible says ‘there is power in your tongue’ in Proverbs 18:21. What words were spoken over Spikey’s life while he was still in his mother’s womb? Do you think as a baby he felt that rejection?
  4. Spikey always felt like he never belonged. How do you identify with Spikey and the members of his family?
  5. It is not easy when you a person is rejected by their own mother and father. What does the bible say about this?






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Hiding behind the mask of rejection

Spikey got his nickname from the way he cut his hair from a young age, short, spikey, uneven and not caring if it was neat. He grew up with his mother Cecelia and aunty Carol Anne. Although Cecelia was married to his father Benjamin, he left her as soon as he found out that she was pregnant. Benjamin was a famous band player and not willing to settle down as a family man. In fact, Cecelia falling pregnant was an inconvenience for him. He left one Saturday afternoon to perform at a concert and never returned.

Cecelia was devastated and rejected the baby from while it was still in her womb, as all she cared about was being on the road with her husband. Drugs, rock and roll and living on the run from one rock concert to another, was the lifestyle she was used to. Cecelia found it difficult to forgive herself for falling pregnant and could not wait to give birth so she could leave Spikey to grow up with Aunty Carol Anne her sister, so she could return to her exciting life. But by the time Spikey was born, Benjamin had met a new exciting younger girl and had no desire for Cecelia as a wife anymore.

Benjamin was definitely not ready for the responsibility of fatherhood nor cared to even find out if Spikey was a girl or boy. He simply disappeared and would appear on television or in the newspaper tabloids from time to time. Cecelia turned to alcoholism and never got over Benjamin leaving her. She was constantly depressed and drunk, never giving Spikey attention or spending quality time with him. Spikey bought a ticket once to attend his father’s concert, but when he went backstage to convince the bodyguards that he was Benjamin’s son, they literally threw him out the door.

Aunty Carol Anne tried to make up for his parents not loving him, but she also had two children of her own so found it difficult to give him the attention he needed. Spikey always felt like an outsider who never belonged. At night when he was alone in his room, he used to allow tears to fall on his pillow quietly, while he questioned God as to why no-one loved him. On the other hand, Spikey was a happy boy at school, always making jokes in the class. He enjoyed making people laugh at the silliest things, in fact everybody who knew him loved him. No one knew or suspected his circumstances. He had found a way to hide his hurt and it worked perfectly for him.

Heart to Heart

Let us discuss Spikey and his family:

  1. List how many masks you think Spikey hides behind? (Why is he a big joker in the class?)
  2. What masks are Spikey’s father and mother live behind?
  3. The bible says ‘there is power in your tongue’ in Proverbs 18:21. What words were spoken over Spikey’s life while he was still in his mother’s womb? Do you think as a baby he felt that rejection?
  4. Spikey always felt like he never belonged. How do you identify with Spikey and the members of his family?
  5. It is not easy when you a person is rejected by their own mother and father. What does the bible say about this?

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